Updated: Feb 5, 2020
This article is shared with permission from our friend Karin Goldgruber. The original article can be found at https://karingoldgruber.com/2019/03/26/creating-space-to-breathe/
When was the last time you have evaluated the progress you have made as a person?
When something in our relationship is tough and painful all our attention is on it. We focus on making it better. When the situation is improved, it’s the new norm and we don’t see it any longer. We don’t appreciate what we have accomplished. We take it for granted. We are continuously dissatisfied with ourselves and stressed out.
By paying attention to my reactions to stress and overwhelm I’ve observed that I have a container that holds my feelings of stress. For many years this container was always filled to the top. When one stressful thing happened, it would overflow. Mostly into my relationship. Feeling overwhelmed and stressed was my norm. Only now can I see how bad it was.
Over time I have created breathing room in myself through the regular use of EFT Emotional Freedom techniques. The container is no longer full all the time. When something unexpected happens, and it always does, I have this extra space to breathe and respond in a better way. I am not as quickly overwhelmed and have time to think logically. I start tapping to reduce the current stress and make smart choices. Being more relaxed and calmer gives me the opportunity to reflect and compare. I see the progress I have made.
New states of operating quickly feel like the norm. It’s so easy to forget how bad it was before.
We need to compare and be aware of the positive changes we have made in our life and our relationship. Be proud and delighted of what we have accomplished. Human nature wants us to quickly move on and do more and better.
Take the time to speak about shifts you notice within you and in your relationship. Then you will see that you dealt with a situation that maybe a year ago you would have not been able to handle at all. You see how much progress you have made.
Creating room to breathe and consistently reducing stress helps you to be stronger, calmer and better prepared as life presents you with challenges. We finally take ownership of our feelings and reactions. We start to regulate our own feelings. We begin to stand on our own two feet.
Karin writes about life as a Highly Sensitive Person HSP, how to reduce feelings of stress and overwhelm and how to find authentic answers to your life questions. She is a Certified Emotional Freedom Techniques practitioner who specializes in working with Highly Sensitive People who experience problems in their relationship because of this innate trait. As a Highly Sensitive Person herself she has overcome many challenges and obstacles and encourages and empowers others to do the same.
More at www.karingoldgruber.com